Surviving the Holidays. Don't Ask. Don't Tell.

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As the holidays are at our doorstep, seniors who are caught between finals and finishing up college applications might be able to catch their breath. But what will they say when Aunt Gertrude corners them, between her polite requests to pass the stuffing, with “Have you gotten accepted yet?” and “What will you major in?” Christine Koubek’s Washington Post article, “Tired of people asking where you’re going to college? Here’s what to say.” gives some guidance as families bundle off to Grandma’s house (or not), break bread, and give thanks.

Learn to pivot. Here are two tips – think about ones that will work for you before family gatherings. The moment to share good news will come sooner than everyone realizes, so it’s o.k. to not have every conversation be about college.

1. Ask Aunt Gertrude a question. Your college process may be reminding her of her days in college. Let her share the good stuff.

Where did you go to college? What did you like about it?

2. Change the subject. Talk about pie, the best way to cook a turkey, or which football team you think may win.

Add these tips to help you navigate the convergence of holiday gatherings and college application season:

Preparing for College Decisions

Protecting Friendships During the College Admissions Process, Susannah L. Griffe

"While You're Waiting", Meghan Mchale Dangremond Tufts Blog

Support Your Teen Through Their College Journey

It's Not Too Late to Fill out Your FAFSA

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